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Anger or Anxiety? – Why Anxiety Can Look Like Rage and What You Can Do About It

Managing anger and anxiety

Anger or Anxiety

When you think of someone struggling with anxiety, what picture comes to mind?

If you’re like most people, you might envision a worry wort or a panic-stricken individual. And you’d be right. Anxiety does manifest itself through worry and panic.

But it disguises itself in other ways, too. Namely, behind the mask of anger.

When you see someone act out with rage, social norms have you believing it’s an epic sign of a really bad day or an anger management issue. But strong emotions aren’t always that simple.

It’s time to look a little more in-depth at whether the root of rage could be anxiety.

Why It Can Look Like Rage

Rage can feel like a volcanic explosion, photo of a volcano smoking. Anger, anxiety and rage can be treated in Westfield, Cranford and Scotch Plains, NJ. You can also get anxiety treatment with online therapy in New Jersey.Do you often feel like Mount St. Helens? Almost as if a tectonic plate unexpectedly shifts under your surface, erupting a blistering spew of emotional lava.

Perhaps you’ve even looked into taming your temper or Googled “Why am I so angry?” a time or two.

Consider, for a moment, that the emotional overflow you’ve been experiencing may not be anger. It could, in actuality, be anxiety on full display.

Anxiety is Often Forceful

Keeping the volcano scenario in mind, imagine the dynamic force of anxiety. It’s that notorious “boiling up” feeling when your fight-or-flight response is activated. Your body recognizes that something is off-kilter and responds by getting ready to defend itself against the “danger.” The problem is that your nervous system can’t tell whether the danger is a deadline at work or a hungry grizzly bear.

Far too often, anxiety is dismissed or pushed down, erupting when your body can no longer contain the pressure. In short, unexpressed or invalidated anxiety can manifest in outbursts of anger. It’s the anxiety’s way of protecting you from the “danger” it perceives.

How Anxiety and Anger Can Interfere in Relationships

As you may have imagined, this volcanic effect can be detrimental to your relationships. More than from the generally negative impact of anxiety or anger, relationships often suffer because there is no warning before the eruption.

You might picture yourself like the little teapot, getting all steamed up, then pouring yourself out. Except that this particular expression of anxiety doesn’t work like that. How so?

Woman removing her wedding ring signing divorce papers. Anxiety and rage in scotch plains, nj can cause problems with relationships. Anxiety treatment in Westfield, NJ can help. Or, with online therapy in New Jersey now!You may or may not feel the pressure building up inside of you. The more likely scenario is that you do, but you ignore it to try to remain calm and cool.

Often, the lava is spewing before you have time to regain control or understand what really happened, burning everyone in its path. And it’s that uncertainty in your behavior that hurts those around you. Your partner or your kids don’t know what to expect from you or why you are so upset.

Imagine your nervous about an upcoming work presentation or a medical procedure.  You are preoccupied in your mind preparing for the event, your body is on edge, and you’re having a hard time focusing on the here and now.  Mindlessly, you ask you, family, repeatedly to get the table ready for dinner. Your spouse is on their phone. The kids are arguing. Now you start to feel like nothing’s going right.  You are feeling out of control and everything begins to blow.

Creating cognitive dissonance and breeding distrust, your loved ones gradually learn not to count on you for emotional stability. They may start to distance themselves from you or cut ties to protect themselves.

What You Can Do About Your Anger and Anxiety

businessman using sledgehammer cracking wall broken on concrete floor background. Therapy for anxiety in westfield, nj and scotch plains therapy for anxiety and rage can help you heal.When you’re trying to identify your volcano as anger or anxiety, remember that neither is an indictment. You can overcome the cycle, moving forward to nurture healthy relationships.

To start, practice paying more attention to your body, your environment, and how you feel in each moment. Know the signs your body gives you that emotions are intensifying.  Stomach-churning? Heart racing? Mind fogging? You’ll likely find a pattern in your physical response and that you’re pushing more emotions down more than you realized.

When you do feel a negative emotion (and the connected body sensations), stop and identify it.  Take a slow breath in and attempt to understand what is happening in your body. Take an even slower breath out.  You can try to trace the emotion back to what triggered it. Thus, learning to recognize your triggers and what you need to do to manage those things in the future.

As with any expression of anxiety, remind yourself that negative feelings pass. But be open with those close to you, making them aware of the intense emotional moments.  Anxiety can be tricky but it doesn’t have to end in an eruption.

When anger or anxiety send your emotions on a downward spiral, you may feel stuck in an endless cycle. Here’s the thing about this negative cycle, it’s difficult to stop on your own. By enlisting the support of a therapist, you can work together to identify the root cause and develop a game plan to overcome it.

Begin Anxiety Treatment in Scotch Plains, NJ

If you need more help with your anxiety, anger and even rage, we can help. Our trained and caring therapists at our counseling offices in Scotch Plains are waiting to give you the best help for your anxiety and rage available. If you’d prefer to meet with a counselor via video session, we also offer online therapy in New Jersey. To begin therapy and your journey to feeling more in control, follow a few simple steps:

  1. Connect with Brave Minds Psychological Services today for a free consultation phone call.
  2. Get your questions answered by one of our skilled and empathetic therapists.
  3. Get control over your emotions and find healthier ways of coping.

Other Therapy Services in New Jersey

At Brave Minds Psychological Services, we offer a variety of mental health services. Our licensed therapists are dedicated to getting you on the right path to healing. Our therapeutic services include therapy for children, with a special focus on anxiety treatment for children and child sexual abuse therapy. We have specialists offering therapy for teens including anxiety treatment for teens and teen social phobia therapy. Also, our adult therapy services include anxiety counselingcouples counselingcounseling for parentspostpartum counseling, OCD therapy, and food allergy therapy. Finally, we have specialized trauma therapy and PTSD treatment areas for birth trauma, pregnancy loss, and miscarriage, and sexual assault counseling for adults,

To read more, visit our mental health blog where our therapists share tips and information with you about a variety of different mental health subjects. If you’re interested in beginning therapy services at our office or online, please contact our Scotch Plains counseling office!

Located in Union County, Brave Minds is proud to serve the therapy and counseling needs of residents in Scotch Plains/Fanwood, Westfield, Cranford, Clark, and surrounding areas.