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6 Ways Parents Can Combat Rape Culture: Part Two

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A woman lays on a sofa with hands resting against her forehead. Sexual violence prevention in Scotch Plains, NJ can help prevent aganist rape culture. Learn how online therapy for sexual assault in New Jersey can help you today! 07076Rape culture is a cycle of fear that perpetuates the subservience of women in the social power structure. In part one, we explored how threat of violence and rape disproportionately affects females and the LGBTQ+ population. The last blog addressed how parents can combat rape culture by teaching and modeling ling emotional intelligence, LGBTQ+ allyship, and deconstructing gender stereotypes. Now let’s explore how to combat rape culture and raise confident and sexually aware kids by teaching consent, gender representations, and sex positive education. 

Teach Body Autonomy and Consent

Teach your child the correct names of their body parts.

Make sure they know that their body belongs to them and they control who touches it and how. Reinforce these messages often and encourage your child to be assertive and say ‘NO’ or ‘STOP’ when they are uncomfortable and do not want to be hugged, touched, or kissed. Check out I Said No! by K. King.

Model consent for your child.

Routinely ask them for consent before you change their diaper, tickle them, or take off their rain boots. Respect the boundaries that your child sets and teach your extended family and friends to do so as well. If you make asking for and respecting consent a routine and expected behavior, your child will learn that their boundaries matter, their body is their own, and they deserve respect. They will also be more likely to recognize when their autonomy and rights are being violated and respect the boundaries of others. Check out Consent (for kids!) by R. Brian

Make it clear that nobody ever deserves to have their autonomy violated or experience violence.

Make sure your child knows it is never a person’s fault if they are harmed by someone else. Encourage them to talk to you if they ever feel like someone has touched their body in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable or is inappropriate.  A Secret Safe to Tell by N. Hunter, or Some Secrets Should Never be Kept by J. Sanders are great books that help children recognize the grooming process, safe vs. unsafe secrets, and teach how to talk to an adult about it. 

Encourage Discussion About Gender Representations

Routinely engage in thoughtful discussions about how gender is represented in the books and media that your child consumes. Encourage critical thinking. Why is the female character portrayed this way? How is the male character treating her? What does this say about how men should treat women? Who created this media and what is their motivation? How does the messaging in the media affect viewers’ understanding of gender roles?

Talk to your children about pornography

The average age of first exposure to internet pornography is 11 years old. Make sure they understand that pornography is a performance by paid actors. It is not real life or instructive. Discuss gender representations in pornography with your child. Talk to your children about how traditional pornography employs sexism and misogyny in the scenarios. Teach them about how sex between partners is based in safety, consent, respect, and mutual pleasure. 

Teach Sex Education

  • Set the expectation for honest, supportive, and ongoing discussions about sex, bodies, relationships, intimacy, boundaries and communication. You will not ‘rush’ your child by bringing up these topics with them. It is the parents responsibility to bring these issues to the child’s attention before they are sexually active. The more education your child has about sex at a young age, the more likely they are to recognize sexual advances from inappropriate adults or individuals. Do not wait until the media or someone else has taught your child the wrong lessons about sex for you. Check out https://sexpositivefamilies.com/ for resources!
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    Teach your child that sex is exciting, vulnerable, and meaningful. It is a form of connection in which they deserve to feel respected, valued, and cared for. They have a responsibility to make sure their partner feels the same. Make sure your child knows that sex should feel good and there is no shame in experiencing pleasure. Experiencing arousal and seeking sex does not make a girl a ‘slut’, nor does it make a boy a ‘player’. 

Rape culture is deeply embedded in our society and affects every single individual. However, parents are in a unique position to combat rape culture by raising children who have a strong sense of body autonomy, gender equality, and sexual empowerment. These crucial and frank conversations have the power to increase communication about difficult topics between you and your child.  The truth is your child won’t see these as difficult topics (the way we might).  They will just see you as a person they can talk to about the important things in life.

Learn More About Sexual Violence Prevention in Scotch Plains, NJ

Changing our society for the better starts with educating the next generation. Our caring therapists would be honored to support you in developing the tools to help fight rape culture. You can expect a safe, non-judgmental space when you visit our Scotch Plains, NJ-based practice. Or, learn about our online therapy services for the residents of New Jersey. To start your therapy journey, please follow these simple steps:

  1. Contact Brave Minds Psychological Services
  2. Meet with a caring therapist 
  3. Help put an end to rape culture

Other Services Offered at Brave Minds Psychological Services

Online therapy isn’t the only service we offer at our Scotch Plains, NJ-based practice. Other mental health services include counseling for teens, trauma therapy, anxiety treatment for children, anxiety treatment for teens, child sexual abuse therapy, and sexual assault counseling for adults. In addition, we also offer  teen social phobia therapyadult anxiety counselingcouples counseling, counseling for parentspostpartum counselingbirth trauma therapy, and food allergy therapy.

 

 

Kerry smiles as she stands against a brick wall for Brave Minds Psychological Services. Contact us to learn about sexual violence prevention in Scotch Plains, NJ. Online therapy for sexual assault in New Jersey can help you today! 07076Kerry Isgur is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about helping children and families thrive. She creates a space to find better ways of caring, interacting, and communicating with one another. Kerry specializes in treatment for children, families, and adults.